The start of a new year tends to make people think about goals and resolutions they’d like to accomplish. Whether it’s to lose weight, get more organized, or get better sleep—New Year’s Resolutions are often fairly traditional.
When you’re a parent, though, your objectives for the new year can be different.
This year, don’t just think about some of the more “common” resolutions when you consider your goals and aspirations. Think about what you can resolve to do in order to be a better parent, partner, and person.
Let’s look at five resolutions you can put in place this year as a parent, to feel accomplished and fulfilled by this time next year.
1. Make Resolutions with Your Children
It can be fun explaining to your kids what resolutions are and how you “make” them. If your children are old enough to understand, make some resolutions with them!
For small children, an example could be improving their listening skills. You might have them say, “I will listen when Mommy or Daddy tells me what to do,” or “I will listen better to my teacher in school.” For older children, they might resolve to work harder in school or take on more responsibilities around the home.
Kids tend to like having something to work toward, so don’t be afraid to get them involved in the resolution process.
2. Limit Saying the Word “Don’t”
There are a few words you might want to push down in your vocabulary this year, including “no” and “don’t.”
As a parent, these particular words might seem to come naturally. They’re both commonly used to discipline kids or to teach them. But they can be damaging when used too much.
Try replacing negative expressions with their positive counterparts. Instead of telling your child, “don’t run,” try telling them to “walk.” This helps to teach them social skills and reduces the focus on negative behaviors.
3. Be a Better Listener
We all could improve our listening skills. As a parent, though, it’s especially important to be a good listener. Your children have a lot to say, and sitting down and really listening and processing their words can make a big difference.
You’ll learn things about them every single day. Beyond that, though, by actively listening (asking questions, acknowledging feelings), you’ll pick up on anything your child might be going through that is hard for them. That gives you the opportunity to help as much as possible.
Your child(ren) will appreciate being listened to and heard. Sometimes, it’s all they need for their day to turn around in a positive way.
4. Resolve to Worry Less
It’s normal for parents to worry. But often it’s not really doing you any good.
Instead of worrying about your child stepping out into the world at any given moment, think instead about what you can do to make the world a better, safer place. Volunteer. Sign up for different initiatives.
Not only can doing these things give you peace of mind, but it can show your child how one person can make a difference in the world.
5. Take Care of Yourself
Self-care is always important, but it’s a necessity when you’re a parent. While your focus should absolutely be on your children, you can’t take care of them properly if you’re not taking care of yourself.
It’s okay to take a break. Make your mental, physical, and emotional health a priority.
Whether you unwind by taking a long walk each evening or by signing up for a spa day once a month, finding ways to take care of yourself can make a big difference in how you feel, and how you parent. Get enough sleep, eat right, and, stay active.
Again, not only will you be doing something good for yourself, but you’ll be setting a positive example for your children that they’ll carry with them for years to come.
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Of course, the above-noted resolutions are just ideas to get you started. Take some time to think about the things you’d really like to change this year (and beyond) as a parent and make them work for you.
If you’re struggling to come up with resolutions or you’re worried you’ll have a hard time sticking to them, feel free to contact me for help or to learn more.
